“Who is She? She is your power, your Feminine source. Big Mama. The Goddess. The Great Mystery. The web-weaver. The life force. The first time, the twentieth time you may not recognize her. Or pretend not to hear. As she fills your body with ripples of terror and delight.
But when she calls you will know you’ve been called. Then it is up to you to decide if you will answer.”― Lucy H. Pearce, Burning Woman
How Much Do We Hurt?
I had the great fortune of being born into a family that celebrated itself. This was no accident and as a believer in the life contract I will address this spiritual process in another article. However the advantage of such a predicament, was that 80% of the matriarchs and 90% of the patriarchs in my family found it a matter of course to pour into their children and the children of their siblings. Stated simply, the little boys and girls in my family were told (repeatedly) they were smart, beautiful, handsome, funny, and could do or be anything. As I grew up and learned the art and science of human behavior coupled with my own experiences with primary school and neighborhood peers, I learned that this was NOT the case for most families. That over 65% of households berated, marginalized, or ignored their children and an additional 15% or more downright brutalized and abused their children. That leaves 20% whereby only about 8% actually addressed their children’s need for a supported self esteem as they grow into adulthood.
Why am I saying all this? There is a global epidemic that has plagued humanity for thousands of years. It is the foundation of colonialism, slavery, and the de-evolution of human kind. The marginalization, vilification, and demonization of women and the divine feminine.
What many spiritualists don't know is that long before our religious and historical cannons claim humans walked the earth, there were humanoid beings on the earth and there was also what was coined as the "Cult of the goddess” This meant that the feminine was revered and celebrated as the master energy that was looked to as “GOD” or good and benevolent.
But something happened at the dawn of the ‘new’ humanity and thus began the “Cult of the father” the reverence for all that was masculine. And all the history of the reverence and worship of the feminine was wiped from humanity’s history. Men usurped the power of women and then proceeded to wash away women’s impact on the world from the history books.
As a result of this, women continue to suffer. Not only did men ascend to power over all the world, through religion, business, and in all other ways but they began to suppress, victimize, vilify and downright destroy anything that was feminine.
Let’s define what feminine is for clarity’s sake. The feminine is that with is nurturing, peaceful, patient, soft, receiving, holding, fluid, complicated, protective, and logical. YES, I SAID LOGICAL!!!! In the wool that has been pulled over the proverbial eyes of the world. Men have usurped the power of logic as divinely masculine. Well I pose this perspective. How many heterosexual women have been married or in long term relationships? How many have had to fight for years with their male partners to see logic in how they approached things. Or the age old routine where the woman will provide her husband with an idea that he rejects and 3 days, 3 months or 3 years later he comes up with the same brilliant idea as if he came to this conclusion all on his own. This process usually occurs about 10-40 years before a man concedes that his wife is and has always been right? Not simply because women are always right but women have the distinct ability to master their emotional upheaval during a 28 day cycle every lunar month that allows them to then overcome their emotions enough in order to seek logical solutions in their stead. Not ALL women master their emotions in this way, but the wisdom of our grandmothers is the shining example of a lifelong pursuit of logic over emotional response. As women who want to be better mothers, friends, partners, and excel in our occupations, this is our process. Men have a 24 hour cycle and that leaves little room for self mastery in the emotions department. Furthermore the cult of the masculine constantly asks men to suppress their emotions. Please note that one CANNOT master what one vehemently denies exists. The definition of toxic masculinity is this, the suppression of emotions and/or denial of them so that they are not managed but emerge as rage and the oppression or destruction of others.
This is what women have been subject to for over 20,000 years. Due to epigenetics, that change over from the cult of the goddess and the divine feminine to the cult of the god and divine masculine has left scars deep within our DNA.
Scars left by how women are asked to hide themselves in certain religions, or how we are forbidden to be spiritual leaders in others. Having our very existence be questioned as in the era in China when a baby girl born meant certain death. The way we fight today for little girls and women who go missing and are often lost forever in Human Trafficking. Lost to the toxic masculinity that often turns rage and thirst for power into sexual predation.
Enough about how we got here. Let’s focus on how we deprogram and heal from this.
What happens after eons of oppression and abuse? We develop Stockholm syndrome. This is the process by which we begin to identify with our oppressors. Which means when we see another woman we have great contempt for all the femininity she stands for. We hate ourselves ladies.
I could say that famous line in marketing, “but it’s not your fault”. But as a woman who walks in her full feminine and masculine power, I would be lying to you if I stated that. I don’t trust people who like to be liked to and neither should you. So the truth is this. Long ago we gave up our power over the world to the cult of the masculine and I do not know why? Furthermore we have not questioned the toxic masculinity that continues to plague our world with statics like 9 out of every 10 women have experienced some form of sexual violence or abuse in her lifetime. And some of us even fight for the toxic masculinity that has colonized the world, enslaved Africans and Jews, committed genocide on countless indigenous people, raped and victimized 90% of its daughters, up until the last 100 yrs denied them ownership of property, the right to vote, the right to be spiritual leaders, the right to commune with nature (condemned as witches) the right to work, and even those who work are denied the right to equal pay. And the list goes on. The Stockholm syndrome of condemning ourselves, other women, jealousy, envy, fighting, back biting, bedding and stealing the partners of, and downright sabotaging other women, is all US!
We will never restore the balance of power if we keep hurting ourselves and supporting our own oppression. We are hurting as women and we are complicit in it.
As we are slowly gaining traction on embracing the feminine. Which has gained more support because our brothers born in the wrong bodies have demanded to be celebrated and called women despite being born in the bodies of men and have made being feminine a thing to be celebrated. I ask, why did it take men who needed to transform into women for us to celebrate what we already are? I highlight this to note that the pain and displeasure we feel as biological women runs deep and our awareness of it and admitting we are hurting is the first step in our healing and evolution.
The next step is healing our inner child. TBC (to be continued).